My house is frequently a mess. I vascilate from acceptance that life with 4 boys is messy and will get better (when they all go to college!) to complete irritation at it all. Pete and I haven't been very good at making the boys do more around here to help out. Pete grew up the youngest of 7 kids, and had to do alot more for himself then I had to (that is what he says anyway). I only had one sister, and my mom stayed at home, so I have to admit, she did everything for us. I do remember having chores as a teenager, but I do not remember them when I was younger.
I have to admit, it is mostly laziness on my part that explains why our boys don't do more. Let's face it-- It is faster and easier to just pick up the toy room myself, then to hear them whine about it. Problem is, I am getting tired. I just can't keep up anymore.
So, we are working on a chore system. Each boy (well,not the baby) has a chart with chores listed on it. They get a check mark for doing said chore. If they whine or complain about doing the chore, they do not get a check (but still have to do the task). Can you tell I am fed up with the whining!? I have at times erased points for particularly annoying behavior. They save up points to spend at the "points store". Since Zachary is able to earn more points, each item "costs" him more then Joey, who also has to "pay" more for things then Vinnie. We still have some work to do, but I think we are making progress. I am trying to think of more things to add to the store. I am open to suggestions, on both the chores and points store!
The charts below. They have to get cleared prior to marking a task off.
The Points Store. The different points values apply to the different kids. They haven't proven very good at saving, so I doubt I will ever have to pony up a trip to In and Out!
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4 months ago